learn to accept the fact that…
… your children grew up the way you molded them to be regardless of what they become.
why do i say this? it’s because sometimes parents have the hardest time accepting the idea that what they taught their children are being put into action. you teach them to reason out when they are fighting for what is right. you teach them to follow their dreams and be persevering about it. there are more things in which i’m not going to emphasize.
what i’m trying to say is that sometimes you get to be a victim of your own principle. don’t get mad. it is you who made them. as much as you want to say that everything above else is your privilege, it has its own twists.
admit that you were effective in instilling everything you wished them to have. now that every value you hammered them with are deeply rooted, don’t get mad when they apply them. i mean, for God’s sake, you were the first one who thought about it.
and frankly, they grow up too. they become capable of thinking and analyzing stuff. they get to widen their horizons about so many things and just because they reasoned out doesn’t mean they disrespect you. they are airing what they think is right. sometimes they say those things loudly because you refuse to listen. you think they are being “harsh” just because they don’t agree with you. sometimes they just have to disagree because you are wrong.
despite of everything, they still love you.
nice article. very true. parents needs to know this and the children should also know that their parents just wants the best from them but it only conflicts when the parents tend not to listen.
donG hO
May 30, 2008 at 8:54 am
nice post! kaya love na love ko parents ko eh.. kasi pinapakinggan muna nila yung sinasabi ko…and if they think that I’m right, edi ako masusunod… wahahahahhaah!!!
wei vines
May 30, 2008 at 12:07 pm
bugsybee
May 30, 2008 at 5:19 pm
mmm… I love every word of your post, seems like you read my mind on the matter. just when did our children realize that we were wrong? when did we realize that our parents were wrong? when we were grownups I guess. were we wrong then or were we wrong now? Parents try their best to do the right things for their kids when they were kids, and at that point in time. but when they become adults, they thought we were wrong? well blow me down. they’ll do the same thing that we did to them, like the same thing our parents did to us.
knowing this fact is that sign of adulthood that has finally come. and we love them more.
(Thomas S. Szasz)
exzede
May 31, 2008 at 12:36 am
That is very true but in my case, my parents let me do whatever I want. Rules are there and parents act as their physical boundary and gives you a tap on our backs that there are limits.
andrewPelago
May 31, 2008 at 2:25 am
@ everyone – thank you for your comments. it’s true that children grow up and parents will do everything to protect their children. it’s the generation gap that keeps both from meeting eye to eye sometimes. the good thing about life is that no matter how hard things are or no matter how life present its challanges to each one of us, love still prevails most especially when it comes to family issues. though at this age a lot of families are being shattered by unsolicited events, i guess a lot of us are still blessed with loving and understanding family members. in the end, family is still family.
ifoundme
May 31, 2008 at 12:41 pm
so very true. pero these days, most parents have an open communication with kids, which is great.
kengkay
May 31, 2008 at 2:41 pm